Having given simple methods for overcoming anger, we now explore how and why people maintain anger.
We do not mean rage, which is simply out-of-control anger, but anger which is deliberately maintained. There are reasons why
people maintain their anger.
Anger usually comes from frustration, and often is maintained to 'fuel' action to solve frustrating problems.
By repeatedly reminding themselves that they are angry about something, people reinforce and maintain their anger until they act on it.
Although much may have been achieved by an "I'll show them!" attitude, just as much and more may well have been achieved without
it - who knows? But, more usually, that same attitude also causes a great deal of damage and tragedy.
At its crudest, it can simply be about revenge and 'getting even', where the person is determined to hurt others to "teach them
a lesson". It can be about vendettas - personal, family, cultural, etc. - with the justification that "honor is at stake".
"Revenge", the famous line goes, "is a dish best served cold", and its 'cooking' is fuelled by maintained anger.
Superficially, revenge can feel satisfying, by 'squaring the books' or 'balancing the ledger', and even following the law of nature that
"for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". But revenge is often illogical and even hypocritical - if your revenge
consists of imitating the very behaviour you are criticising in others. To simply say "what is good for the goose is good for the gander"
conveniently ignores that "what is bad for one is also bad for the other". You create a 'civil war' within your own mind and compromise
your ability to think clearly if you criticise others and then ape them. You have painted yourself into a corner with no option but to
likewise criticise yourself. Again, we see the age-old wisdom of "don't do to others what you don't like others to do to you".
From time to time we see very ugly scenes of angry self-proclaimed 'vigilantes', shouting death-threats at those accused or
convicted of crimes, especially concerning children. Their anger is understandable, but what they scream and yell about what they would do
to the accused usually sounds as horrific as the crime itself. It is one thing to criticise a crime, but another to threaten to commit an
equal crime in retaliation while taking 'the moral high ground'. Personally, we think that threats made of serious injury or death should
be severely punishable offences, regardless of circumstances. Often such 'vigilantes' seem to have no personal connection with the crime
but simply use it to loudly threaten and vent their pre-existing anger, and even just to get attention.
Now imagine the frustration of being oppressed for something you were born with - your skin colour or sexuality, for example.
Not only are those with the 'wrong' skin colour oppressed for their whole lifetimes, but so are their parents, brothers and sisters,
children, relations and like-complexioned friends. Such frustration typically has one of three outcomes - depression,
apathy and resignation, or bitterness and anger.
[Incidentally, homosexuals are usually more inclined towards depression or resignation than to anger and, very interestingly, extensive
studies of children brought up by lesbian couples have shown that these children consistently develop and perform better than average
in every respect, as measured by standard performance indicators. This is attributed to the typical absence of angry
physical violence in their households. We should point out parenthetically that male homosexuality tends to be fixed from birth,
whereas lesbianism can commonly fluctuate, and alternate with heterosexuality.]
Despite anger being listed as one of the 'seven deadly sins' and condemned by innumerable spiritual teachers, some so-called
'religious' people seek to justify revenge on religious grounds by selectively quoting the Bible or Koran, for instance. Favourite examples
are: "you shall have an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth", and "'vengeance is mine' saith the Lord".
The second of these is (ab)used as follows: "I am doing the Lord's work, and on His behalf I will take vengeance". But both
the quoted passages refer to karma, not revenge, as pointed out by revered spiritual writer Florence Scovel Shinn.
She explains that the word 'Lord' should be understood as meaning 'law', so both passages refer to letting karma take its course,
and to having faith in the law of karma rather than taking the law into one's own hands.